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  • Son of Hamas Leader Embraces Christianity

    Glimpse of Islam "Behind the Scenes" in this Revealing Interview

    Son of Hamas Leader Turns Back on Islam and Embraces Christianity

    Tuesday , August 12, 2008

    By Jonathan Hunt



    Mosab Hassan Yousef is an extraordinary young
    man with an extraordinary story. He was born the son of one of the most
    influential leaders of the militant Hamas organization in the West Bank
    and grew up in a strict Islamic family.

    Now, at 30 years old, he attends an evangelical Christian church,
    Barabbas Road in San Diego, Calif. He renounced his Muslim faith, left
    his family behind in Ramallah and is seeking asylum in the United
    States.

    The story of how his life unfolded is truly amazing, whether you
    agree or disagree with his views. Below is a transcript on an exclusive
    FOX News interview with Hassan as he tells firsthand how a West Bank
    Muslim became a West Coast Christian.

    Click here to view video of Mosab Hassan Yousef speaking out.

    Click here to view video 'Renouncing Islam.'


    JONATHAN HUNT: Why, after 25 years, did you change?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: I believe that all those walls
    that Islam built for the last 1,400 years are not existing (sic)
    anymore. They don't recognize this. They built those walls and made
    people ignorant because they're afraid. They didn't want people to
    discuss anything about the reality of Islam, about the big questions of
    Islam and they asked their followers, the Muslims, 'Don't ask about
    those certain questions.'

    But now, people have media. If the father closes the
    door for his daughter not to leave the house, she's going to go behind
    her computer and travel the world. So people easily can get
    information, knowledge, searching (sic) engines, so it's very, very
    available for everybody to study about Islam, about other religions.
    Not from the Islam point of view, but from other points of view.

    So for the next 25 years this is for sure going to make huge change in the Muslim and the Arab world.

    JONATHAN HUNT: You speak from a unique perspective,
    a man who grew up not just in an Islamic family but as part of an
    organization seen by many people around the world as an extreme force
    in Islam: Hamas. What is the reality of Islam? You say people don't see
    the reality; What is the reality of Islam?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: There are two facts that
    Muslims don't understand ... I'd say about more than 95 percent of
    Muslims don't understand their own religion. It came with a much
    stronger language than the language that they speak so they don't
    understand it ... they rely only on religious people to get their
    knowledge about this religion.

    Second, they don't understand anything about other
    religions. Christian communities live between Muslims and they're
    minority and they (would) rather not to go speak out and tell people
    about Jesus because it's dangerous for them.

    So, all their ideas about other religions on earth
    are from Islamic perspectives. So those two realities, most people
    don't understand.

    If people, if Muslims, start to understand their
    religion — first of all, their religion — and see how awful stuff is in
    there, they'll start to figure out, this can't (be) ... because most
    religious people focus on certain points of Islam. They have many
    points that they are very embarrassed to talk about.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Such as?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Such as Muhammad's wives. You
    will never go to a mosque and hear about anyone talking about
    Muhammad's wives, which is like more than 50 wives — and nobody knows
    (this), by the way. If you ask the majority of Muslims, they will not
    know this fact.

    So they're embarrassed to talk about this, but they
    talk about the glory of Islam, they talk about the victory, the
    victories that Muhammad made. So, when people just like look at
    themselves and see they're defeated, they have ignorance, they're not
    educated, they're not leading the world as they're expected to do.
    They’re think they want to get back to that victory by doing the same,
    what Muhammad did, but disregarding (sic) the timing. They forget that
    this happened 1,400 years ago and it's not going to happen again.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Do they want to destroy Christianity?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Islam destroyed Christianity
    from the beginning and Muslims don't recognize that they stabbed
    Christianity (in) its heart when they said that Jesus wasn't killed on
    the cross. They think that they honor him in this way.

    Basically, any Christians understand that this way,
    (but Muslims) tell Jesus, okay, we don't care, you didn't die for us.
    Someone sacrificed his life for you, (but) you tell him, okay, you
    didn't do it!

    This is what Muslims are doing basically. But they
    don't understand that this is the most important part of Christianity:
    the cross!

    So, they are ignorant, they don't know what they are doing and it explains what an evil idea it is behind this Islam.

    JONATHAN HUNT: What specific event or events began to change your mind about Islam?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Since I was a child I started
    to ask very difficult questions, even my family was telling me all the
    time, 'You're a very difficult person and we were having trouble
    answering your questions. Why are you asking so many questions?' This
    was from the beginning, to be honest with you.

    But I felt that everybody — and my father was a good
    example for me because he was a very honest, humble person, very nice
    to my mother, to us, and raised us on the principle of forgiveness,
    okay? I thought that everybody in Islam was like this.

    When I was 18 years old, and I was arrested by the
    Israelis and was in an Israeli jail under the Israeli administration,
    Hamas had control of its members inside the jail and I saw their
    torture; (they were) torturing people in a very, very bad way.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Hamas members torturing other Hamas members?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Hamas leaders! Hamas leaders
    that we see on TV now, and big leaders, responsible for torturing their
    own members. They didn't torture me, but that was a shock for me, to
    see them torturing people: putting needles under their nails, burning
    their bodies. And they killed lots of them.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Why were they torturing people?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Because they suspected that
    they had relations with the Israelis and (were) co-operating with the
    Israeli occupation against Hamas ... So hundreds of people were victims
    for this, and I was a witness for about a year for this torture. So
    that was a huge change in my life. I started to open my (eyes), but,
    the point (is) that I got that there are good Muslims and bad Muslims.
    Good Muslims, such as my father, and bad Muslims, like those Hamas
    members in the jail torturing people.

    So that was the beginning of opening my eyes wide.

    JONATHAN HUNT: You talk about the good Muslims, like
    your father, yet you still now renounce the faith of your father. Could
    you have not been a good Muslim?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Now, here's the reality: after
    I studied Christianity — which I had a big misunderstanding about,
    because I studied about Christianity from Islam, which is, there is
    nothing true about Christianity when you study it from Islam, and that
    was the only source.

    When I studied the Bible carefully verse by verse, I
    made sure that that was the book of God, the word of God for sure, so I
    started to see things in a different way, which was difficult for me,
    to say Islam is wrong.

    Islam is my father. I grew up for (one) father — 22
    years for that father — and another father came to me and told me, 'I'm
    sorry, I'm your father.' And I was like, 'What are you talking about?
    Like, I have my own father, and it's Islam!' And the father of
    Christianity told me, 'No, I'm your father. I was in jail, and this
    (Islam) is not your father.'

    So basically this is what happened. It's not easy to
    believe this (Islam) is not your father anymore. So I had to study
    Islam again from a different point of view to figure out all the
    mistakes, the huge mistakes and its effects, not only on Muslims — (of)
    which I hated the values ... I didn't like all those traditions that
    make people's lives more difficult — but its effects also on humanity.
    On humanity! People killing each other (in) the name of God.

    So definitely I started to figure out the problem is
    Islam, not the Muslims and those people — I can't hate them because God
    loved them from the beginning. And God doesn't create junk. God created
    good people that he loved, but they're sick, they have the wrong idea.
    I don't hate those people anymore but I feel very sorry for them and
    the only way for them to be changed (is) by knowing the word of God and
    the real way to him.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Does it worry you that in saying
    these things — and given your background and your words carrying extra
    weight — there is a danger that you will increase the difficulties, the
    hatred between Christians and Muslims in the world right now?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: This could happen if a
    Christian person will go talk to them about the reality of Islam. They
    put Christians on the enemy list anyway, before you talk to them about
    Islam. So if you go to them and tell them, as a Christian, they will be
    offended immediately and they will hate you and this will definitely
    increase the vacuum between both religions — but what made someone like
    me change?

    Years ago, years ago, when I was there, God opened
    my eyes, my mind also, and I became a completely different person. So
    now, I can do this duty, while you as Christians can help me do it, but
    maybe you wouldn't be able to. (Muslims) have no excuse now.

    JONATHAN HUNT: How difficult a process has this been
    for you to effectively walk away from your family, leave your home
    behind? How difficult is that?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Taking your skin off your
    bones, that's what happened. I love my family, they love me. And my
    little brothers, they’re like my sons. I raised them. Basically, it was
    the biggest decision in my life.

    I left everything behind me, not only family. When
    you decide to convert to Christianity or any other religion from Islam,
    it's not (enough) to just say goodbye and leave, you know? It's not
    like that. You're saying goodbye to culture, civilization, traditions,
    society, family, religion, God — what you thought was God for so many
    years! So it's not easy. It's very complicated. People think it's that
    easy, like it doesn't matter. Now I'm here in the U.S. and I got my
    freedom and it's great, but at the same time, nothing is like family,
    you know. To lose your family —

    JONATHAN HUNT: Have you lost your family?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: My family is educated and it
    was very difficult for them. They asked me many times, especially for
    the first two days, to keep my faith to myself and not go to the media
    and announce it.

    But for me it was a duty from God to announce his
    name and praise him (around) the world because my reward is going to be
    that he's going to do the same for me. So I did it, basically, as a
    duty. I (wonder) how many people can do what I can do today? I didn't
    find any.

    So, I had to be strong about that. That was very
    challenging. That was the most difficult decision in my life and I
    didn't do it for fun. I didn't do it for anything from this world. I
    did it only for one reason: I believed in it. People are suffering
    every day because of wrong ideas. I can help them get out of this
    endless circle ... the track the devil (laid) for them.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Have you spoken to your father recently?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: There is no chance to
    communicate with my father because he's in jail now and there is (sic)
    no phones in the jail to communicate with him.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Have other members of your family told you how he's reacted?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: They've visited him from time
    to time. Till this moment, I don't know his reaction exactly but I'm
    sure he's very sad (over) a decision like this. But at the same time,
    he's going to understand, because he knows me and he knows that I don't
    make any decisions without (believing strongly in them).

    JONATHAN HUNT: Is it making his life more difficult among fellow Hamas members?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Definitely. My family,
    including my father, had to carry this cross with me. It wasn't their
    choice. It was my choice, but they had to carry this cross with me and
    I ask God — I pray for (my father), all my brothers and my sisters here
    in this church, praying all the time for them — 'God, open their eyes,
    their minds, to come to Christ. And bless them because they had to
    carry this cross with me.'

    JONATHAN HUNT: Tell me about Hamas and the way it
    works. Is Hamas a purely Islamic religious organization as you see it,
    and that's where, in your eyes, its faults lie, or are there other
    parts of it which are a problem for you? Or is Hamas a good
    organization? What is Hamas to you?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: If we talk about people, there
    are good people everywhere. Everywhere. I mean, good people that God
    created.

    Do they do their own things? Yes, they do their own
    things. I know people who support Hamas but they never got involved in
    terrorist attacks, for example ... They follow Hamas because they love
    God and they think that Hamas represents God. They don’t have
    knowledge, they don't know the real God and they never studied
    Christianity. But Hamas, as representative for Islam, it's a big
    problem.

    The problem is not Hamas, the problem is not people.
    The root of the problem is Islam itself as an idea, as an idea. And
    about Hamas as an organization, of course, the Hamas leadership,
    including my father, they're responsible; they're responsible for all
    the violence that happened from the organization. I know they describe
    it as reaction to Israeli aggression, but still, they are part of it
    and they had to make decisions in those operations against Israel, (for) which there was the killing of many civilians.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Do you believe Israel blameless in the conflict?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Occupation is bad. I can't say
    Israel — I'm not against any nation. We can't say Israelis, we can't
    say Palestinians, we're talking about ideas. Israel has the right to
    defend itself, nobody can (argue) against this. But sometimes they use
    (too much) aggression against civilians. Sometimes many civilians were
    killed because those soldiers weren't responsible enough, how they
    treat people at the checkpoints.

    My message even to the Israeli soldiers: at least
    treat people in a good way at the checkpoints. You don't have to look
    really bad and it's not about nations, it's about just wrong ideas on
    both sides and the only way for two nations really to get out of the
    endless circle is to know the principles that Jesus brought to this
    earth: grace, love, forgiveness. Without this, they will never be able
    to move on, or break this endless circle.

    JONATHAN HUNT: You've seen your father jailed,
    you've been in prison yourself. You've seen Hamas carry out acts of
    terror against Israelis, and yet you say everybody needs to rise above
    that?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Definitely. This is the only
    choice. Nobody has magic power to do something for the Middle East. No
    one. You can ask any politician here in the U.S., you can ask any
    Palestinian politician or Arab politician, Israeli leaders; no one, no
    one can do anything. Even if they believe in peace now: they're part of
    the game.

    They're part of the trick. They can't, even if you
    find a brave person, like Rabin, who was called by an Israeli to make
    peace with the Palestinians and give them a state, no one, even if you
    find a strong leader, they can't do this. You can't force an
    independent country to give another country independence. (Especially
    when) the other country wants to destroy it.

    Everybody is hurt. Israeli soldiers, they lost their
    friends. Palestinians, they lost their children, their fathers. (There
    are) many people in prison still, and many people were killed.
    Thousands. So everybody will never forget this. If they want to keep
    looking to the past, they will never get out of this circle. The only
    way to start (is just by) moving on. They were born under the
    occupation as Palestinians.

    The last two generations, it's not their choice. The
    new generations from Israel — if we say disregarding the existence of
    Israel is right or wrong, what's the guilt of those people who were
    born in Israel and they have no other country to go to? It's their
    country now, that's how they see it. And they are going to keep their
    resistance and defense against whomever. (They will) say, 'Get out of
    this land!' So the only way is for both nations to start to understand
    the grace, love and forgiveness of God, to be able to get out of this.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Do you believe that Israel can ever strike a peace deal with Hamas?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: There is no chance. Is there
    any chance for fire to co-exist with the water? There is no chance.
    Hamas can play politics for 10 years, 15 years; but ask any one of
    Hamas' leaders, 'Okay, what's going to happen after that? Are you just
    going to live and co-exist with Israel forever?' The answer is going to
    be no ... unless they want to do something against the Koran. But it's
    their ideology and they can't just say 'We're not going to do it.' So
    there is no chance. It's not about Israel, it's not about Hamas: it's
    about both ideologies. There is no chance.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Aren't you terrified that somebody is
    going to try to kill you for saying these things — which would be
    approved of according to parts of the Koran?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: They got to kill my ideas
    first, (and) that's it, they're already out. So how are they going to
    kill my idea? How are they going to kill the opinions that I have? ...
    They can kill my body, but they can't kill my soul.

    JONATHAN HUNT: You're not afraid?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: As a human, you know, I can be
    very brave now, I'm not thinking about it at this moment and I feel
    that God is on my side. But if this will be the challenge, I ask God to
    give me enough strength.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Have you been threatened?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: No, not really. Honestly, most
    Muslims and Muslim leaders here in the U.S. community, European
    communities, they are trying to get ahold of me. They are calling my
    famiily, my mother, and asking for my contacts. They are telling her,
    'We want to help him.
    '

    JONATHAN HUNT: They think you need help?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Yeah, they think that
    Christians took advantage of me, and this is completely wrong. I've
    been a Christian for a long time before they knew, or anyone knew. I
    love Jesus, I followed him for many years now. It wasn't a secret for
    most of the time, and this time I just did it to glorify the name of
    God and praise him.

    They're not dealing with a regular Muslim. They know
    that I'm educated, they know that I studied, they know that I studied
    Islam and Christianity. When I made my decision, I didn't make it
    because someone did magic on me or convinced me. It was completely my
    decision.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Do you miss Ramallah?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: Definitely. You've been there
    and you know how a wonderful country (it is). Very, very beautiful.
    It's a very small spot and it has everything — this is why people are
    fighting for that piece of land. I definitely miss Ramallah.
    Jereusalem. The Old City.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Do you believe you will ever be able to go back?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: I think I belong to that land,
    and sooner or later I'm going to go back, no matter what. If they want
    to kill me, they (will) do whatever they want to do. I have a family
    there, they love me, they completely support me now with my decisions.
    Maybe they don't want me to talk to the media but they believe that I
    made a decision that I completely believe in. So they support me, so I
    love my family. I'm going to go back there again one day. I love my
    town.

    JONATHAN HUNT: Do you think you'll ever go back to a Middle East living in peace?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: There will be a 100-person
    peace when Jesus comes back, when he judges everybody. His kingdom's
    going to be 1,000 years and it's going to be completely peaceful and
    it's going to be the kingdom of God.

    JONATHAN HUNT: What is your basic message to any Muslim listening to this right now?

    MOSAB HASSAN YOUSEF: My message to them is, first of
    all, to open their minds. They were born to Muslim families — this is
    how they got Islam and this is just like ... any other religion, like
    growing up (in) a Christian family, or growing up (in) a Jewish family.

    So my point is that I want those people to open
    their eyes, their minds, to start to understand and imagine that they
    weren't born for a Muslim famiily. And use their minds.

    Why did God give them minds? Open their hearts. Read
    the Bible. Study their religion. I want to open the gate for them, I
    want them to be free. They will find a good life on earth just by
    following God — and they're also going to guarantee the other life.

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    husband calls you and announces, "I'll meet you at home; we'll enjoy
    some lunch—and each other." Instead of lamenting the lost opportunity
    to run an errand, respond, "Why not?" Or when your wife e-mails you and
    announces, "The kids are going to be at sports practice for two hours.
    If you come home early, I'll make it worth your while," don't think of
    that backlog of paperwork on your desk. Respond, "Why not?"

    —Gary and Barbara Rosberg, Winter 2006

    Sexual problems
    Every couple except maybe one or two in the entire universe will have
    sexual problems at some point in their marriage. Anyone who tells you
    otherwise is misleading you. Every man is going to suffer from three
    major issues at some point: impotence, premature ejaculation, and
    delayed ejaculation. The good news is there are ways to work through
    those, so don't spend so much time fretting over them.

    —Debra Taylor and Doug Rosenau, Spring 2007

    The big O
    The big O is not orgasm. The big O is oneness. It's not how great the bodies or how great the orgasm. It's, Was that a loving experience where we shared with each other? Was it contributing to our oneness?

    —Christopher McCluskey, Spring 2007

    Initiating sex isn't the only way to express sexual desire
    Most of us typically think of sexual desire as a hunger for sex—often
    with sexual thoughts or fantasies—that prompts us to initiate sex.

    It turns out, however, that most women experience a receptive type of sexual desire. For many women desire is "triggered" by thoughts and emotions arising during sexual excitement, not before.
    So when a husband becomes frustrated because he wants his wife to
    pursue him sexually and he believes that she has no interest in sex
    because she doesn't do that, he's actually not giving her enough
    credit! Most women will respond positively to sexual advances—they just
    don't initiate them because that's not the way they were designed. By
    recognizing that most men are proactive with sex and most women are
    reactive, and then by accepting and respecting those differences, we
    can allow a woman's type of sexual desire to "count."

    —Debra Taylor and Michael Sytsma, Summer 2007

    Good in bed?
    We have to fight against taking our sexual responsibilities for
    granted. On the day we marry, we gain a monopoly. Our spouse commits to
    have sexual relations with no one else. Regardless of whether we act
    thoughtfully, creatively, or selfishly in bed, they receive only
    what we provide. Without any competitions, some of us, quite frankly,
    simply stop making an effort. Do I want to reward my wife's commitment
    to me, or do I want to make her regret it? Do I want to bless her, or
    take her for granted? Do I want to be a generous, enthusiastic lover,
    or a miser reluctantly doling out occasional "favors"? When the Bible
    tells us in Hebrews 13:4 to keep the marriage bed "pure," the
    application goes far beyond avoiding physical acts of immorality to
    include inner virtue.

    —Gary Thomas, Winter 2007

    Copyright © 2008 by the author or Christianity Today International/Marriage Partnership magazine.

  • Addendum to Sermon Series

    As I continue on the sermon series on the book of Acts,  here's a link with a chronological timeline for the book of Acts that may be helpful.

    TIMELINE.

  • Sermon of the Week

    How to Speak Australian!

    This is the message I preached at St Paul's Prebyterian Church in June.
    I listened to myself (for self-evaluation) and was blessed my own sermon!

    I am sooooo good!  (and humble too....I know).  j/k. 

    Listen to it; you'll be hit between the eyes, and your heart will be touched.

  • Sushi to Go

  • Bulldog Chapel Transcript

    Bulldog Chapel—GLORY

     
    John 1:14 “The Word became flesh, and made his dwelling
    among us.  We have seen his glory.  The glory of the One and Only, who came from
    the Father, full of grace and truth
    .”

     
    Made it to state! 

     
    ·       
    Our joy isn’t our own, but we rejoice because
    our boys rejoice.

    ·       
    Our pain isn’t our own when our son flubs a play
    (or when the team loses), it is as parents, vicariously experiencing the boy’s
    pain.

    ·       
    Why do we get nervous, have diarrhea or throw up
    in the bathroom when we’re not even playing the game? (Richard Hood) Because, we glory in our sons.

    o       Illus.
    Gordon Beckham, 8th overall pick to CWS; grad of UGA and local Atlanta
    hero.  The mother had cried in the
    bathroom for half an hour because Gordon had grounded into a Double-Play in CWS
    4 yrs earlier as a freshman.  Not out of
    shame or failure, but for her son. 
    Why?  Because she gloried in her
    son.

    o       E.g..  Can you imagine, I approach my son, saying,
    “You can no longer carry our last name because you have dishonored us!  You will simply be known as “Timothy,
    formerly known as Chun…” 

    §        
    Movie: Princess
    Bride
    : Inconceivable!

     

    o       Not
    totally inconceivable:  Rashid Chaudry, of Jonesboro,
    GA, accused of strangling his daughter for
    dishonoring the family name.  And he’s
    declaring he’s not guilty because of freedom
    of religion
    —namely, Islam allows honor killings as a righteous act. 

    §        
    TRUE: Two cases this week alone in Iraq
    and Afghanistan;
    both cases, the father and the brother were set free. (Don’t get me started with
    Islam….I have a LOT to say about it). 

     

    Often hear:

    There are so many religions in the world.  How can we know which one is the right one?

    Isn’t there more than one way up the mountain?  So, isn’t there more than one way up to God?   

    Doesn’t every religion have some element of truth?

    As long as one does his best to obey his religion, isn’t
    that good enough?

    A pastor I know was asked once, “OK, tell me in 15 minutes
    or less, what is so different about Christianity compared to the 5,000+  religions of the world?”

    Bill Hybels took up the challenge and said, “I can do it in less than that.  The difference between Christianity and the
    5000+ religions of the world can be described with two words.”

    All religions of the world
    come down, in its bare fundamentals, to the word DO. 

    ·       
    You have to DO in order to gain the favor of its
    god.

    ·       
    You have to DO what’s required to get rewarded
    by its god.

    ·       
    You have to DO all that it’s necessary to gain
    eternal life, if they have such a concept. 
    Illus.

    o       Islam—follow the 5 pillars of their
    faith to get a chance at paradise; if you fight “jihad,” and become a suicide
    bomber, you can guarantee paradise, where you get 72 virgins serving you and
    meeting your every imaginable need. 
    (Haven’t had a chance to ask a Muslim woman how she feels about that…cuz
    they won’t talk to an infidel like me).

    o       Buddhism—follow the 8-fold path and
    hold to the 4 Noble truths.

    o       Hinduism—reincarnate about a million
    times and then you’ll reach “Oneness.”

     
    Christianity can also be
    described with one word: DONE.

    ·       
    2000 years ago, Jesus, who is the glory of God
    incarnate, came to earth and died on the cross to pay the penalty of all our
    sins.  Six hours he hung upon the cross,
    and when he paid the price for the sin of the world, his last words on the
    cross were, “It is finshed.”   It is
    DONE.

     

    ·       
    Unique doctrine of Christianity (not found in
    any religion) is that when we come to recognize
    and know Jesus personally as Lord and Savior
    , ALL our sins are
    forgiven…PAST, PRESENT AND FUTURE!

    o       Other
    religions, if there is a forgiveness doctrine, is only for past sins.

    o       In
    Colossians and Ephesians, the Bible tells us that all our sins are
    forgiven! 

     

    ·       
    It is DONE. 
    On that note, another key difference that follows is that all the
    religions of the world are based on LAW;
    but Christianity is based on LOVE.

    o      
    (NIV, CJV) John 3:16—“For
    God so loved the world that He gave
    His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have
    eternal life.”

     

    ·       
    And if Christianity is based on LOVE, then it
    really is a RELATIONSHIP with God,
    not a RELIGION of God.  What’s the difference?

    o      
    Illus. 
    To Timothy: If you pitch a no-hitter for 4 innings, I’m gonna get you a
    new cell phone.  Next game, he bombs
    it!  Coach Kiley: “It’s not your day in
    the sun, Timothy.”  Brings in __________,
    and he pitches 4 innings of no-hit ball. 
    Imagine ________ comes to me and says, “Can I have a new cell
    phone?”   My answer: Go ask your dad. 

    ·       
    Reward is not based on performance; DOING
    it.  It’s based on a loving relationship
    between father and son. 

    ·       
    In the same way, when God promises eternal life,
    it’s not something you can earn it with DOing good works.  It is a loving gift of God, received by faith/relationship
    from father to son.

     

    ·       
    If Christianity is not a religion; it’s a loving
    relationship with the Father God who created all of us.  The Bible tells us in Ecclesiastes that God
    had placed in each of us, ETERNITY in
    our hearts
    , which simply means that every human being has a sense of the
    eternal…something beyond ourselves, and the five senses, that point to the
    Creator God. 

    o      
    Just like a compass
    points to true North wherever we are, God placed in us a “feeling in the gut” that
    tells us we belong to something greater than ourselves.

    o      
    Almost every toy your children have, when you
    look underneath, it says, “Made in China.”  Everything seems to be made in China!   In the same way, ETERNITY IN OUR HEARTS is
    like a stamp under our butt that, when we look beneath, it says “MADE BY GOD.”

     

    How do you establish that loving relationship
    with God?

     

    ABC’s of Faith.

    ·       
    Accept—the bad news/good news of the Son of God.

    ·       
    Believe—personally trust in the promises of God
    for the forgiveness of sins and eternal life in His Son, in whom He glories.

    ·       
    Confess—that you are a sinner.  That you do not measure up to the standard of
    moral perfection, but you freely receive His gift of forgiveness that was
    accomplished through His Son; it was DONE.

     

    Closing

     

    Core of the Bad News/Good News of the Son of God is this:

     

    We are more evil and wicked than we ever imagined (far greater than
    any and all legalistic, strict, Bible-thumping, shove-it-down your throat
    message you have heard), yet, at the
    same time, in Christ Jesus, we are more loved and accepted that we dared hope
    (far
    greater than any and all sugar-coated, liberal, Bible rejecting message you
    have ever heard).

     

     

    Thank you so much for giving me 15 min of your life to share
    this great news with you. 

    Since the beginning of the season, my prayer has been…and still is…that one day,
    you willingly give all of your life to God, with the same love and devotion, and
    with the same glory
    , that you have for your children.

     

    Let us pray.